Many of us who did not want it, at times in our lives, have been pushed into public for just a small amount of time. Elizabeth Edwards made a conscious decision to live her life, the joy, worried, crises, and journey of her life in a very public way.
She often talked of her son Wade, who died at the age of 16 and when asked about her children she still said “I have four children”, always in the present tense. She had a picture of Wade at her bedside when she died and will be buried next to Wade today.
She changed her last name when her husband, John Edwards, began his public journey in politics from Anania, her maiden name and the one she used to practice law, to Edwards.
In 2004 when first diagnosed with breast cancer instead of retreating she was very open and public choosing the most aggressive form of treatment as well as reaching out to women and often talked about not overlooking having mammograms. She talked about her putting off having some for years and that perhaps if she had not she would not have been battling breast cancer. She became a champion for others fighting cancer.
When the cancer returned in 2007, she again was open about it and talked about the difference in treatment in 2004 and 2007 and referred to it as a “chronic condition” that would require her to be on medication for the rest of her life. We only learned on Monday that the cancer had metabolized to her liver and she had went off of treatment and into hospice care at her home with her three children, siblings and estranged husband by her side.
Elizabeth Edwards shared who she was with us. Her worry over aging while her husband remained youthful looking; her battle to control her weight, her illness and champion of medical treatment for all of us and the woman who came into her life uninvited and unwanted as the mistress of her husband. She talked openly that there was a need for a DNA test because the child, Frances Quinn Hunter, deserved to know who her father was and to be supported by the father.
In January she decided to separate from her husband, put her home on the market for sale and to move on with her life, all of this she lived openly and answered questions about her life even when it must have been personally difficult for her.
It is said she spent this last year helping to prepare her children for the inevitable day of losing her, she did this with grace and courage and always doing what she felt was best for them. That included letting her estranged husband back at the end, she knew they would need him and so once again as she had done throughout their lives she thought what was best for them, perhaps not what she would have wanted for her, but what she felt her children needed. She asked her family and friends to never speak disparagingly about John Edwards because he was the father of their children and they needed him so much now.
She decided to live with and through all of this very publicly and women identified with her from the weight, to the aging, to a chronic illness to a husband who betrayed her at the most difficult time of her life; she always talked openly about her life..
She was an advocate and supporter on subjects such as universal health care, gay marriage and she was against the war in Iraq,.]
Her legacy is all of that and that she said “I fight change like we all do but in the end with each difficult time in my life I return to the perimeters of the reality and then decide with those perimeters how to proceed”..
I know I am a better person for following Elizabeth Edwards life and her lessons, and I have great respect for her as well as thankful of her legacy of how to face very human things head on. Elizabeth Edwards elected to have a very public funeral, keeping with the life choices she made along her journey.
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Forget Rome and the Coliseum, to hell with gladiators’ swords at the ready, all you had to do was be sitting in Judge Hank M. Goldberg’s Department 82 for a battle of two legal titans. We have Neal Hersh of Hersh, Mannis and Bogen representing Melissa Etheridge and her millions against Stephen Knowles of Knowles and Collum and Melissa’s ex-love Tammy Lynn Michaels. Both of these legal beagles have offices steps away from one another in Beverly Hills.
Well the comments and oratory got so heated that Neal Hersh references some of Stephen Knowles work as “slobbing and sloppy,” Knowles looks at him as if to say “you said what?” and one point warns Mr. Hersh, “Mr. Hersh does not want to get into that” in Neal’s attempts to get this back to Judge Pellman’s court. The voices were loud and I had never seen either of these two lawyers in such a jaw lock. Hersh at one point looks at Mr. Knowles and in a stern tone asks, “are you done?” and Knowles looks back adjusting his glasses and states just as sternly, “ Yes, I am done.“ Much of this stems from the fact that Stephen Knowles bagged Etheridge in New York while she was at her hotel waiting for her former love of her life, Mrs. Tammy Etheridge to bring the kids to visit. Well Tammy Etheridge aka Tammy Lynn Michaels called in sick to Mr. Etheridge or Mrs….you get it. And then someone delivered room service LMAO but it was not a snack but DIVORCE notice! Well that was all it took for these two lawyers to realize there will be no playing nice. It was a great set up and Melissa got served!
Mr. Hersh wants this case in Judge Pellman’s courtroom and Stephen Knowles position is too bad, I bagged your client first and you have not even served my client with anything! Well Judge Goldberg would step off the bench and appear to be confused as to what to do. He would come back and if he could have would have “placed his hands under his butt and rocked”…his “honor” did not really know what to do or was so baffled that he was going to send it to the “PJ” for review…or something around those lines. Too bad it was not in front of Judge Gordon or Lewis, control would have been taken and a decision made right then and there.
Reflecting on Rome and Caesar, here is another thought. Neal Hersh and Stephen Knowles are gladiators, sandals and little short togas to match. Judge Goldberg is Caesar, not one of the strong Caesars, but Caesar. The two gladiators are battling and in the end, they don’t get thumbs up or thumbs down, Caesar finds he lacks any thumbs!
Knowles went on to say that Tammy is broke and often her credit cards don’t work, Neal was quick to remind all that Melissa pays all the bills, rent , lights and water, everything and gives Tammy two grand a month plus pays for the car lease too. Knowles shoots back that she makes “60 to 70? thousand a day and that her kids are “destitute” and that Tammy’s credit card is often declined. For many in the court that did not seem to be “destitute” and after nine years together playing house. So now my question is do you still really want to have all the rights of “straight” people? Along with the right to marriage, welcome to the world of DIVORCE and family law…write a song about that! The Neal Hershes and Stephen Knowles of the world will be happy to sing backup.
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Daniel DiCriscio and Perez Hilton (Mario Lavandeira) at St. Jude’s Children Hospitals Charity Celebrity Fashion Show Dec 2008, Daniel DiCriscio was a celebrity model, hence the get up and makeup! A fun night and all proceeds went to the children of St. Jude’s Hospitals.
Ok back to the seriousness of the article: First Amendment? Freedom of Speech? I don’t know about that!
I am sure a lot of the world caught the Miss USA debacle between Carrie Prejean and Perez Hilton, real name Mario Lavandeira, last (give me a date here). The issue: gay marriage v. Christian values? I don’t know if that is exactly what that was all about, but I was holding back from writing about this but I have a question? “Are we being bullied by Perez Hilton’s own beliefs?” Or… I am quite shocked at why, first of all, Perez was chosen as a judge for the Miss USA pageant? He writes a Celebrity Gossip Site, no? Donald Trump…what is up with that? Not only did this Miss USA pageant pull the lowest ratings ever, it now makes me sad to see that the pageant has turned “political”. It use to be fun, to watch and fantasize, but now it isn’t that much fun.
I thought that Carrie Prejean answered Perez’s question with dignity and honesty and kept her, some would call, “archaic” values but hey, those are her values! And she even prefaced her answer with “Not to offend anyone” and she did it all with a smile. I guess Carrie isn’t allowed to speak her mind. I thought that in the USA we have the First Amendment, Freedom of Speech? I am not saying at all that I am a Carrie supporter or a Perez supporter, but I feel Perez snuck in a “firecracker” question. Yes, gay marriage should be discussed, but remember, you can’t please everybody. We don’t need mass “brainwashing” on this subject, just education and information. We can’t change the world overnight and alienate and intimidate just for a cause. That is unethical, and unfair. I thought this country had progressed more than this. Why should she be afraid to say she is for gay marriage or not? She can say whatever she wants. This is the United States of America! Land of the Free, etc. etc.!
What I saw happen between Perez and Carrie reminded of a high school “bully” picking on another student. Then to have Perez go and call her a “stupid bitch”, was classless and made him less credible, to me. I heard he apologized to her and asked her to go have coffee that is lame. Day late and a dollar short Perez. I guess the shocker is that Perez asked a “Christian girl” a gay marriage question, “woohoo” Perez!
I even saw on Bill O’Reilly’s show a gay advocate say he wouldn’t be friends with someone who didn’t back gay marriage, and Bill cornered the gay advocate guest and had the guy in a tizzy, discussing the Miss USA debacle.
We don’t want war overseas but it seems the war is here in this country: Gay v Straight! I myself don’t feel that this is what we need to happen. Who is to say what is right and wrong? Definitely not me, nor anyone else.
I know you have to fight sometimes for what is right, but big changes take time. Marriage is for 2 people, no matter what, who want to spend their lives together and love one another, etc. Didn’t Obama say almost the same thing she did? I just hope that we can think and say the way we feel without a war breaking out in our own country. Not over this!
For those of you who missed the debacle here is the question by Perez!
And then his response after the firestorm!
“I would like to hear what you “the readers” think?”
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